5 things you should not say to your husband/man

I have been married for 13 years so I believe I have earned the right to say -  I know what not to say to a man...or maybe what a he does not want to hear! I read an article recently that touched on the subject and I totally related to some of the points made regarding how men hear some comments women make differently than we may intend. Here are five things I agree men do not want to hear:

1. When are you getting a new job?: You may be saying this to encourage your man or push him to excel in his career but what a man hears is you think he is a failure and not a good provider; or you are not proud of his current career.

2. My mother warned me about this: Most women defer to their mothers for wisdom and counsel on certain issues especially relationship ones. However, if you bring up a forewarning from your mother with your man; all he hears is you have been discussing private matters with your mum and she is probably on your side.

3. Don't worry; I'll do it myself:  Let's face it there are certain chores we wish our men performed efficiently but they just suck at them! However, sometimes we get overwhelmed and give them carte blanche over our kitchens or laundry rooms. More often than not, we find we may as well have done it ourselves. If you are like me; I get irritable and impatient and just blurt out words like -"don't worry I will do it myself". All your man hears is he is not adequate or needed.


4. You are just like your father: Now if his dad has the brains and business acumen of Bill Gates and the good looks of George Clooney, he probably won't  mind you comparing him to his dad. If he has an estranged relationship with his dad and has tried all his life not to make mistakes he made, your boo would most likely not welcome the comparison

5. I wish you are more like...(a friend of his): To me this is tantamount to committing a cardinal sin! Humans hate being compared to their peers period. Comparing your man to his friend, colleague etc. is saying you wish they were that person!

Most times as wives and partners, our intentions are good. Let's choose our words wisely when making them known. Look out for 5 things you should not say to your wife/woman.